(Sorry, politicians, I do try to maintain a level of respect for your calling but this kind of thing does happen.)
Anyway, here is my contribution. This is what I know.
There have been some tragic cases recently. Kids have been driven to suicide by bullying or the threat of blackmail in a way that seems to adults like us to be shocking and incomprehensible. But I'm afraid these dramatic cases are only the tip of a vast and painful iceberg. Abuse, bullying, and targeted and relentless denigration are commonplace and if picking on a kid can grind them down, can succeed in making them vulnerable and depressed, then the malevolence only increases. Every day children who are miserable enough to be contemplating suicide are being told to get on with it, to "fuck off and die!".
And the worst of it is, this is not the action of a small group of sick and twisted psychopaths. We hear talk of "trolls", a weird breed of on-line stalker who specialise in abusing people apparently just for the fun of it, but the reality is worse. Our children are doing this to each other. Our children could easily be victims, most likely we would never know, but the horror is that they could just as easily be the bullies.
Quite what is going through kids' heads (or adults' heads, come to that) when they are posting these appalling messages is hard to imagine but we cannot blame it on some freakish mental abnormality. It just seems that some quite normal kids find being on-line as disinhibiting as being drunk. They have no sense of boundaries or consequences, almost no sense of reality. They apparently take no responsibility for the damage they are doing, the pain they are inflicting or the tragic consequences that could well ensue.
So when people say this not a technology problem, that is not entirely true. We demonise our young people very easily when it suits us, but surely this generation have not suddenly become monsters. The clue is in the term "cyber-bullying"; this is a problem associated with social media and the interweb. Bullying itself is not a new phenomenon but something about being on line seems to bring out the worst in some of our children, to negate their natural sense of empathy and to encourage them to behave like psychopaths even when we know they are not.
So here is a very important point: The problem is not to find and root out some small group of sick individuals. The problem is what technology has done to the culture that our kids are growing up in. We know that kids can be vicious, we always were, but something about social media makes it worse and we should be acutely aware of that.
The other side of the problem is the victims. Why don't they report what is happening to them?
(Let me be clear, I'm not blaming the victims. They may have been suffering months, even years, of abuse and misery and the last thing they need is to be told that it is their fault. Nevertheless, the victims do not report what is being done to them - even though they have plenty of opportunities.)
To be honest, I don't know why they don't but there are some possibilities:
* Perhaps they are afraid of the consequences. The classic dynamic is that the bully forces the victim to be silent because the consequences of saying anything would be worse. In this case threatening dire punishments may do more harm than good; it only gives the bully more reason to enforce a culture of silence.
* Or, more subtly, the victim may feel that their status as a victim would only be reinforced, that they would be ridiculed and pitied even more if they had to cry for help. That would make teachers and parents more part of the problem than the solution.
* Or perhaps they don't identify what they are suffering as bullying. That may seem absurd but these kids have done the courses, been through the workshops, composed the slogans and designed the posters so why don't they take their own advice? Well, for us as adults it seems natural to have a clear idea of what kind of behaviour is acceptable. We may disagree a bit among ourselves about where the boundaries lie, but there is a consensus that boundaries do at least exist. Adolescents' notions of acceptability, on the other hand, may be more fluid. If they pick up their sense of what is appropriate from their peer group then they will be even less inclined than most adults to make a stand. Criticising would make them more of an outsider than ever.
But whatever the reason, it's simply a fact that most victims do not report that they are being bullied or ask adults for help. They may share what is happening with friends if they are lucky enough to be part of a group but even then the misery has to stay private in case the friends find themselves in the same boat. So if this is the case, how would a new "Report Abuse" button help? It may be important to have one, it may be an important symbolic recognition of the problem, but it seems unlikely to be a solution. Technology may be involved in the problem but that doesn't mean that the problem will be solved by a quick technical fix.
It seems more likely that the solution would involve understanding what is going on in the victims' heads - the mirror image of trying to understand what is going on for the bullies. And somehow to introduce adults into the equation - not necessarily as the police or even the counsellors but as external reference points for what life should be like, what our kids have a right to expect from life and what kind of abuse is simply unacceptable.
So having outlined why I think so many potential solutions wouldn't work I'll post a second part of this blog in few days to expand that point about adults and to explain how critical I think it is.